Dear Jack and Family,I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your dad. I'm sure, as so many are of his generation, he was a great man and dad and rest assued that I'm keeping you and your family in my prayers.Sincerely,Mike Dudas
Growing up in Monaca. the O'Keefes were always close with the Kinkeads.Most people thought we were related, but we we weren't, even though we called their dad "Uncle Jack'' and their mom "Aunt Ruth.''How that came to be, I'll never know. It wasn't like we didn't have real uncles. In fact, growing up I had eight uncles, including several whom I saw on an almost daily basis.But I always had a special regard for "Uncle Jack'' and "Aunt Ruth.'' They were my parents' best friends. They grew up together in Monaca and stayed close over the years. In fact, my dad's parents and the parents of "Uncle Jack'' had been friends, so that gives you an idea of the deep roots of the relationship.Our annual visit to the Kinkead household over Christmas was a special treat. There were eight kids in my family and six in the Kinkead family so you can imagine the craziness of having 14 kids in one house. The shouting and laughter could be heard all over town.I became best friends with their son, Jack, who was a year older then me. I was also close with his younger brothers, Mike and Tim, and his sister, Miriam, a year younger than me. They were all great people, and we were more like brothers and sisters than just friends."Uncle Jack'' and "Aunt Ruth'' even took my brother Neil and myself in for a couple of months when our house was destroyed by fire. We were 13 and 12 at the time and probably were more than a handful. But they more than made us feel welcome in their home, and I've never forgotten that act of kindness.Well, "Uncle Jack,'' died last week at the age of 88, and I've been thinking a lot about him since then. He served his country during World War II in the Navy. Once back home, he was employed with J&L Steel in Aliquippa, Pa., in the blooming mill where he rose to the position of foreman before it closed in 1985. He was a member of St. John the Baptist Catholic Church and a life member of the Monaca Volunteer Fire Deparment and the Monaca American Legion Post 580.He enjoyed a great, loving relationship with his wife Ruth for 62 years before she died in 2012.In addition to their six children, he had 18 grandchildren and 16 great-grandchildren. Family was more important to him than anything. He lived for them, doing anything and everything he could to help them.I remember "Uncle Jack'' as a quiet guy. I never heard him raise his voice or saw him get mad.I also never heard him complain about anything. He took life as it came, dealing calmly with whatever problems arose. He was rock solid and dependable, never getting upset or out of sorts.Being a former high school basketball player, he loved sports, and we probably talked about sports more than anything. But he would always take time to find out how I was doing and how things were going for me. You knew that he cared, and I always felt he was in my corner.The last time I talked to him was at my dad's funeral in 2010,, and we had a great time catching up on things.Thinking back to growing up in Monaca, I realize now how lucky I was to have so many people around who loved and cared about me. It wasn't just my parents and brothers and sisters who were always there for me. It was also my many aunts and uncles and cousins who were on the lookout for my best interests.And then there were the Kinkeads. I couldn't imagine life without them.Unfortunately, "Uncle Jack'' and "Aunt Ruth'' were among the last of my uncles and aunts to die. That entire generation is now gone, and with them goes something that we'll never see again.It used to be that families stayed together, often living in the same towns their whole lives. But those days are gone. Now, everyone is spread out all across the country. Social media helps, but it can't really take the place of seeing relatives daily and getting to know them on a personal basis.Not much anyone can do about it, but it does make me yearn for the days when families stayed together and looked out for each other. Those were the days when you had people like "Uncle Jack'' and "Aunt Ruth'' in your life.
To the Kinkead Family, Cathy and I would like to let you know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. I will always cherish my memories of spending Christmas Eve with the family at the Kinkead house. Your house was always filled with a lot of fun and love. Uncle Jack is now in good hands with the Cushnen girls in heaven. Love, Bruce and Cathy
To the extended Kinkead Clan: Our hearts and prayers are with you all.I fondly remember Uncle Jack for his humor and happiness at all Holiday and family celebrations. A trip home would not be complete with out a stop-over on Indiana Ave. I'm convinced that he and Aunt Ruth are united with the Cushnen Girls in heaven and the thought brings me comfort as I hope it also does for you and yours. In Sympathy and prayers.Brian, Julie, Stephen, Kevin and Elizabeth
To all my cousins and their families, our hearts and prayers go out to you in the loss of yourFather (Uncle Jack). Uncle Jack and Aunt Ruth are peacefully reunited again. I have so many fond and fun memories from them in my early years. Love Bill and Jo
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Kathy...so sorry for your loss of your dad. May the prayers that are surrounding you now help to carry you through the difficult time ahead. You have my profound sympathies.
To the Kinkead Family: Dorinda and I are saddened to read of the passing of your Dad. He was a very kind and special individual and I will always be thankful for both his and your mom's kindness as friends and neighbors to my parents. They were always so very pleasantwhen speaking to the rest of our family as well. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.Ed Saul
“Although it’s difficult today to see beyond the sorrow, may looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow.” My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family!
Peace and Healing to you and your family Stephanie. <3
Uncle Jack (as the O'Keefes called him even though he wasn't really our uncle) was a great guy. He always had a calm way about him and he always something good to say about everyone. He was a great guy and he raised a great family. It's reassuring to know that he's up in heaven with Aunt Ruth and my mom and dad and my brother Neil and they're probably sitting around talking about the good old days of growing up in Monaca.
I remember playing baseball and stick ball in the back yard of every house that the Kinkead's ever lived at in Monaca. I also remember our trips to Canada, when Ruth & Jack were first married, and I was only 6-years old. In fact, in 2011, when I visited Uncle Jack, he asked me if I remembered our trips to Canada, and of course I did.
Hi Miriam and Ed,Ray and I are deeply sorry for the loss of your sweet dad, Jack. He was such a kind, gentle so friendly man. He had such a sweet smile. Treasure your memories. You had a great family that was always there to help with your mom and dad. I know it is bringing back mom and dad's passing to Ed. It happened to me someone at work passed away and I was having a hard time coping for acouple days. I have you in my prayers the Lord give you the strength you need. What a blessing to have Matt visit with his dad. Your parents are now together. Love you, Ray and Anne Adele Parsons
To Uncle Jack's Family:We have fond and vivid memories of Uncle Jack's & Aunt Ruth's house, filled with kids, and always filled with love. Please know that our hearts and prayers go out to you in your loss of a kind and gentle man. God Bless !!Love, Jay & Eileen
the Rhodes family loved grandpa jack and had birthday and family events to remember him with.
the Rhodes family is honored that we got to have him in our life and that our baby grandson Andrew had him as his great grandpa !
I was just thinking of your Mom and Dad. He lived a good long life. Please take care. Allen
Mop and Family: You have my sincere sympathy and my prayers. So glad I got to see your dad at your grandson's ball game. Please know I am thinking of you.
Please accept our deepest condolences for your family's loss.